#76 “Let’s Agree to Disagree”:  What Does this Mean and how to Respond?

Agree to Disagree

“Let’s agree to disagree.” When someone says this, what do they mean? To me, the statement seems to carry with it both positive and negative messages. Positives are the idea that an agreement can be salvaged out of an apparent impasse, and a sense that we don’t have to break … Continue reading

#49 Conflict Avoidance: Four Types And Four Questions To Get You Re-engaged

You may have noted a theme in my blogs regarding my attitude to conflict. I think much of what we do that doesn’t work stems from conflict avoidance and our inability to be with conflict. I find that acceptance of conflict is more likely to facilitate a constructive shift in … Continue reading

#4 Criticism and Attacks can be an Avoidance Strategy

  One of the most valuable and current books for a mediator is Bernie Mayer’s Staying with Conflict. One of the chapters covers the topic of conflict avoidance – the ways that people shy away from the conversations that would be beneficial for them.   I am sure you can … Continue reading

#2 Seven Reasons to Embrace Conflict

  Conflict may frighten you, or at the least, you find it unpleasant. Perhaps the last thing you would choose to do is to engage in conflict, and yet this is exactly what I encourage you to do in spite of the anxiety you may feel.   Firstly, a few … Continue reading