#75 Anger: A Sword Above Our Own Heads

Anger: A Sword Above Our Own Heads

I think that when we feel a stab of anger we hold a sword above our own heads. This image of anger suggests that it can harm the person who experiences it. We must overcome the natural gravity of the emotion, otherwise the sword of anger will strike our own … Continue reading

#74 How to Move Past Anger’s Payback Wish

How to Move Past Anger's Payback Wish (multiple doors)

Emotions have both meanings and action tendencies. Anger’s foremost meaning seems to be that another person or thing has caused harm and there should be a consequence. However, anger’s action tendency – the way it inclines us to carry out the consequence – can be problematic. One of anger’s central … Continue reading

#73 The Tapestry of Anger: A Review of Benefits and Cautions

The tapestry of Anger: Benefits and Liabilities (many traffic lights)

  Anger is both beneficial and necessary, and at the same time, a potentially dangerous liability. In this blog I write about some of its central benefits along with qualifying cautions. Anger is helpful as a: -Signal of wrong-doing -Means of defense -Message of deterrence -Energetic source of motivation   … Continue reading

#71 Taking More Responsibility for Conflict Leads to Greater Empowerment

Greater empowerment. Photo of man on sailboat

The road to greater empowerment in conflict resolution is different from what you might imagine. We are all familiar with the feeling of power that accompanies anger or being righteously offended. But, swellings of aggravation are delusional and a false sense of power. Through blame, these emotions assign responsibility to … Continue reading